Daycare – More Evidence for Quality, Licensed Daycare Centers

This post is more evidence as to why we need to have more quality, monitored, licensed daycare centers. Home based daycares don’t always cut it; though I know there are plenty of quality licensed home daycare centers, they are NOT subjected to the same standards.

Self-Saboteurs

I’m sitting here today listening to the wonderful Toastmasters sharing their messages during our District Leadership Training. I’ve been ‘blah’ all day. Just listening, making notes, and not engaging very much.

One of the other Area Directors asked an innocent question about what she should do when her own self-saboteur told her she wasn’t doing a good enough job.

My first thought was, “You mean you have one of those too?”

I responded, via chat, that at those moments, she needed to write down everything she HAS done and prove her self-saboteur wrong. I learned this technique in dealing with my depression / mental health. And then I broke down crying.

We ALL need to stop and give ourselves a hug and remember:
– We are ALL in the middle of a pandemic.
– We are ALL dealing with stuff we have never had to deal with before.
– We are ALL our own worst critic.
– We are ALL harder on ourselves than anyone else ever is.
– We are ALL trying to do the best we can with what we have.

Namaste!

Alliteration Allegations Astound All – by Dawn and Damian

Henry the Hyena happily howled hungrily at his hairy, huge, hyper husky.
Henry and his husky hankered to be handy and hassled Harry, the handyman carpenter, for help.
The cooperative, crazy carpenter cut cybertrucks creatively.
“Cool!” Commented the comrades of the carpenter’s cunning craftery.

Drake, the daring deer dashed over a road and didn’t die.
The delivery dude delivered deals to Dad while driving the Delorean.
Dumb delivery dude nearly drove into Drake the deer doing his dashing.
“Darn it, deer, don’t dash in front of my Delorean.”

Silly snake, Samantha, scurried and slithered sideways for a scoop of soup.
Soon Samantha set sights on some sides with her soup.
The baker baked boombastic bread that looked like a bomb.
“Bread and broth be beautiful,” beamened both.

Funny Franklin fox feared fun farts.
Fortunately for Franklin, he was free to face his fear.
The tired truck driver took a tooting trombone in a Tesla towards Franklin.
“Totally terrific.” Franklin tooted the trombone tactfully.

Pink, pugnacious Peter pig pooped petrified pellets proudly.
Pug panicked preposterously and pronounced to police promptly.
Popular police person patrolled the pandas painting the pavement.
“Pretty please pick poop primer under paint,” Peter pleaded.

Saskatchewan’s Failing Report Card on Child Care

Today, I received a link to this document put out by the CCPA:  https://www.policyalternatives.ca/publications/reports/saskatchewans-failing-report-card-child-care

It really didn’t surprise me.  I’ve known for a while that it’s near impossible to establish a new daycare in this province.  I tried.  I blogged on my experience (see link at the top of the screen).

The city sent me a flyer with some proposed zoning changes.  The very last point indicated they wanted to set minimum parking and drop off requirements for new facilities.  While I agree that this should be considered by a daycare, by the city enforcing this as a requirement, they will simply add another barrier to setting up a new daycare.  These institutions are already hard enough to set up!  I emailed my city councilor; I hope it makes a difference.

Loss

I know it’s been a very long time since I have posted to this blog.  A lot has changed in my life.  And writing fell by the wayside.

I lost my dad in May 2017.  He was in the Philippines and his wife notified me.  I knew that he had heart problems and that he wasn’t supposed to fly but he did what made him happy and I can’t fault him for that.  I couldn’t make it to his funeral which bothered me.  His birthday is Thursday; he would have been 74.

My husband followed on September 14, 2017.  That’s a whole blog post in itself.  For another day.  I still talk to J.  This week has been particularly hard.  I’m having all types of anxiety.  Trying to do taxes works me up because I have to go through the paperwork and files downstairs and my heart starts aching.

Saturday night, I was just lying in bed crying.  I co-sleep with my 2 year old and at one point, I could tell my sobbing was bothering him so I told him, “I miss daddy” and he responded “I miss daddy too…” He reminded me the next morning too.  Heartwrenching.

Damian wanted to call his dad this morning at 6am.  So he did.  And then Tristan says “I miss daddy too.”  But he can’t call his daddy so he has to make do with watching the 3 YouTube videos that J recorded before he passed.  Thank gawd he has this.

My mom followed J to heaven on September 25, 2017.  Although she was sick for longer, I never expected to lose her so close to my husband.  Sometimes I just wish I could go and paint her nails for her and then I remember she’s gone.  Yesterday, I was talking to a co-worker who mentioned a friend had to move into long term care.  I told her I hoped she could get into a home in the rural areas because the ones in Regina are overcrowded and horrible.  And then I thought about mom and her last 3 weeks in that overcrowded hospital like warehouse room.  And I started crying.

I know I’m working through my grief slowly.  Some days are harder than others.  I keep putting one foot in front of the other.  Today, I just wanted to go home, sit in a hot bath with some candles on and do nothing.  I couldn’t.  But it was tempting.

Namaste.

A Christmas Poem

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all thro’ our home,
All the children were sleeping, like I was alone.
The stockings were opened and no presents remained,
Yet a feeling o’ something forgotten, it came;
Our Christmas letter, I’d forgotten to write,
The cards I had chosen aside by the light.
Gah! I jumped up and made a dash for the cards,
Family/friends must think I am a total tard –
What to write, I pondered, for the past year;
Most of what happened would bring a big tear.
Focus on the positive my husband declared;
Not on all else that had dramatically fared.
My mom in a nursing home all safe and snug,
As a great big bug wrapped in a rug;
End stage COPD has nothing on her there,
All her meals and meds are safely prepared.
Both my wonderful boys are in good health,
I couldn’t ask for anything more ‘cept for wealth.
But I’m wealthy beyond what most people have,
I’ve a family, a job, a vehicle and a “pad.”
My hubby’s chemo treatments are making him well,
It’s not like he’s locked up in a prison cell.
From the nausea, he’s lost his excess weight,
With the new treatments, he’s feeling remarkably great.
My job, at SaskTel, I returned – in July
After a great vacation t’would bring a tear to your eye.
We took 3 weeks between J’s surgery & my work
We might have gone a little beserk.
Packed up the van and drove to BC,
Goodness, an awful lot we did see,
Rode a ferry, water slides, amusement park rides,
We even got to walk a little in the tide.
We enjoyed it a lot and want to do it again,
Maybe next time it will be upon the holiday train,
That way we can relax and as we drive out of sight –
Holler Happy Solstice. Now I bid you good night.

National Daycare Program

If I could establish a National Daycare Program, this is what I would propose:

• Remove a level of government from the process – make daycare a federal issue.  Thus reducing cost and finger pointing.
• Establish universal rules and regulations that apply to all provinces and all types of daycares – home / centers & for-profit / non-profit.  Thus making it an even playing field for all.
• Make all rules and regulations reasonable.  There is no logical reason I can think of to set a cap on the number of spots in a daycare if the staff and space is available. (In Saskatchewan, there is a cap of 90 spots per facility; you can have more than 1 facility in a building but they have to have separate space, staff, etc.)
• Establish criteria for all daycare workers that is fair and removes barriers.
• Commit to establishing, and funding, a certain number of new spots every year as demand requires.  Thus making more spots available as the population increases.
• Commit to adequate public funding so that daycares can pay a living wage to all workers.
• Commit to adequate public funding so that quality, licensed daycare is affordable to all.
• Work with organizations who wish to establish daycares to “cut through the red tape.”  Thus enabling new centers to open without a run around.

Before And After Care

For those who work 8 – 5 M-F and have school age children at home, finding before and after childcare can be a challenge.  Children go to school from 9 to 3:30, or in my case, 9:17 – 3:22.  And I work 8 – 5.  Someone has to be with my child from 8 – 9:17 and 3:22 – 5.

Children have to be in someone’s care until they are around 11 years old.  They start school around age 5.

Finding daycare for only 3 hours a day (and a split 3 hours) is hard.  Having a child part time in a childcare center ties up a space that could be used for a full day.

And the fees associated with before and after care can range from $300 – $550/month.  Again, because it uses a full space, some daycare centers have no alternative but to charge the full fee.

Many schools do not have a program within the school.  I think all schools should offer this.  Even if I had to pay for it.

Universal Child Care Benefit (UCTB)

Back in 2006 just before Stephen Harper was elected, Canada was on its way to having a national childcare program under Paul Martin’s Liberal Party.

This dream was crushed when Stephen Harper was elected.  He scrapped the policy and replaced it with a Universal Child Care Benefit (UCTB):  $100/month to help with daycare costs – for children under 6.

The conservatives touted that child care decisions are best left in the hands of mom and dad.  That’s a cop out.

First, this benefit is taxable leaving less in the hands of the families.

Second, the amount of UCTB is a joke.  It is a pittance because daycare costs way more than $100/month – it averages $500 – $2000 / month depending on the province and if the daycare is for-profit or non-profit.

Third, even if we had a federal cap on “affordable” daycare at $10 – $15 /day, the UCTB would not cover it!

Fourth and finally, why only until the children are 6?  What, children 7 and up don’t require daycare?  Last time I checked, the recommended age to leave children alone (in SK at least) was 11.

Justin Trudeau’s Liberal party has since increased the UCTB; however, it still not adequate.  It would almost cover an “affordable” daycare program.  But it does not address any of the other concerns.  We NEED a national childcare program!

Read more:

• http://www.childcarecanada.org/blog/one-more-year-without-national-child-care-program
• http://voices-voix.ca/en/facts/profile/universal-childcare
• http://childcarecanada.org/documents/research-policy-practice/12/02/canada%E2%80%99s-history-never-was-national-child-care-program
• http://www.conservative.ca/harper-highlights-the-universal-child-care-benefit-2/

Role of Provincial Government in Daycare

Unlike the Federal government, the Provincial government plays a major role in child care.

 

 

The Ministry of Education dictates all things daycare center wise.  Public funding (set up and ongoing), subsidies, staff to children ratios, age groupings, type of child care, licensed vs unlicensed (i.e. private home daycares), green space, window space, furnishing, washroom spaces, administration, staff requirements, supervision, health and safety; you name it, they cover it.  Except cost.  They do not dictate cost.

The Provincial government, currently, has a major role in daycare.  Unfortunately, different provinces have different requirements for daycare.  It is my opinion that we need a National Childcare Program that addresses differences in pricing and regulations.

Read more:

http://www.qp.gov.sk.ca/documents/English/Regulations/Regulations/C7-31R1.pdf